Being alone is something that most people enjoy…the calmness, the ability to focus on and care for yourself. I’ve been alone for a long time now…or it feels like it and for me that time is not wanted or celebrated. I, like other people need my alone time, but too much alone time causes me to spiral…and I mean really spiral. I try incredibly hard to be positive and see things as happening for me and not to me, but on slow Sundays, my brain manages to ruin any semblance of a relaxing weekend.

Reframing the way I see time by myself is something I’m actively working on…finding things to occupy my time, new hobbies, new places and NOT work (my biggest downfall is working when I’m not supposed to be). Filling alone time with other people is also something I’m trying to work hard not to do. Other people deserve their time alone too. I don’t want to be that needy person that needs someone to reassure them that the world does not in fact hate or despise them. If someone doesn’t talk to me for a few hours or even a day that doesn’t mean that they all of the sudden hate me as a person.

You would think with a masters in psychology I would be able to shrink myself into believing that alone time is needed and normal, but here we are haha. Here are some things I do to help myself and sometimes it works…other times I just continue my spiral until I finally fall asleep.

• walk….with the dogs or if you really want to isolate yourself just go by yourself (the dog parent guilt will get you though)
• Do homework or something you’re about to hit the deadline for at work
• Read a book or listen to an auidobook
• Listen to your favorite podcast (shoutout Call Her Daddy and Brunch with DesB)
• Clean…yea not my favorite either
• Laundry…also not fun
• Put on a good EDM mix or Couchlands and have a mini rave (what I’m currently doing)

****DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT go back in your phone and look at memories and shit that are going to make you sad…tried that one out for you all and it didn’t go well****

Okay, that’s all I have for tonight…go forth and be alone!